It's not the kink meme I'm mentioning it's those anon memes like the inception anon meme that are deliberately set up for people to wank on others and be cruel under anonymity. I've lurked on the kink meme and your right people there are great. Memes like those are encouraging and make people come together, the other kind I fear can make people feel like hell and I've seen in other fandoms people leave because of them D: